Just Not Average…

There’s no denying that I don’t fit in any specific box. Let’s just start off with the obvious–I am a 56 year old woman who gleefully drives a yellow sports car. To give you the full picture, I must point out that this isn’t a sunny yellow, fun Miata. Nothing against that car, but I drive my Honda s2000 because it handles with excellent precision and incredible speed. It is a race car. I’m not nearly so graceful. The car is kind of like my exoskeleton.

car2I’ve never been a minivan/SUV kind of person. I cried when my husband and I bought our first four-door vehicle.

This leads to another way in which I’m not average. I have two daughters, but never craved children. I loved my husband and he wanted kids desperately. I made a choice to become a parent and having decided to bring them into this world, I love my daughters a lot. One is a ER resident in Brooklyn and I love hearing her sometimes gory ER stories.

My older daughter just graduated with her Ph.D. in psychology. Which brings me to the other way I’m not typical. I have a Ph.D. in counseling and a whole other career in that area. My daughter–who fits this career as well as her sister fits hers–followed her father and I into the helping profession. What we do is the same, but not the same. She actually likes giving tests and working with hospitalized clients, I don’t. (No–I never use what clients say in the books I write because my imagination is so rich and vivid, it’s actually more interesting. Besides, clients deserve complete confidentiality.)

I also swear and I have no shame about it.

The words usually called “bad”, originally came from the Anglo-Saxons several decades back. Words with the same meaning that are acceptable(and even used from the pulpit, like “fornicate”) are of Norman or Olde French origin. The bad words became bad when the Normans overthrew the Saxons.

Seriously, it’s just as simple as that. We use the language of the winners of that war and spank our kids for using words from the losers.

When my daughters were young, all words were acceptable in our household. We didn’t call names or throw verbal insults around, so words didn’t have an ugly power. I did make it clear with my girls, however, that the world has a different view of language than I do. If they use certain words in certain places–like with school teachers–they would have consequences. This was never a problem.

I write sexually-explicit romances. These are not–the consensus is–erotica or lady porn. My books are relationship oriented and the characters just happen to have really great sex.

I have been married–I’m almost embarrassed to say this–for 37 years and I still like him. A lot. We married very young, going through college and grad school together. I write steamy sex about people in this world in relationships that help them be better at who they are. This is exciting to me and I resist(my critique group will tell you) the idea that romance has to be fantasy.

So, I’m weird. I’ve mostly accepted my differences and strange contradictions. You’ll find evidence of my unusual perspective in my books

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Romance Character Names

Dirk and Mason and Vaughn are all fine, but how many of them have you met in real life? And are you looking for real life in the romances you buy or do you like bigger-than-life characters? This is a debate I’ve often had with my critique partners–the romance fantasy versus romance reality issue. Some…Continue Reading

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Review: Lick by Kylie Scott

This is a great book for those fascinated with the lives of rock stars. I write sexy contemporary romance and I tend to enjoy books that aren’t ordinary. Ms. Scott’s book captures the imagination and gives the reader a wonderful escapist romance in several areas. How many of us have fantasized about a famous, successful, rich dude falling…Continue Reading

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WHY I WRITE ROMANCE

I started writing romance when interaction with a writer friend got me thinking. I love words and have always read. As a matter of fact, one of my earliest memories is of waking in the middle of the night–at four or five–and carrying a book into little hall where I could turn on the light…Continue Reading

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Author Interview: Susie Warren Speaks!

  I’m interviewing Susie Warren, author of The Rosa Legacy Book Series: When did you first realize you wanted to be a writer? I began writing stories in high school but when I went to college at seventeen, I worried that a writing career would be too elusive or risky so I gravitated toward more…Continue Reading

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Review: Misery Loves Cabernet by Kim Gruenenfelder

Review: Misery Loves Cabernet by Kim Gruenenfelder

Kim G. has a wicked, fun sense of humor and I’m not ashamed to say this is a big part about why I like her books. Centered on an amusing, identifiable main character–a late-twenties woman named Charlie–this book fits best fits the Chick Lit category. The writer clearly knows her setting, which is the film…Continue Reading

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Inspirations of a Romance Writer

I watch television…and movies. And read a lot of books. I like old movies from back to the forties and fifties and pieces of these often inspire my own work. No, I don’t lift plots. Every writer of every sort deserves to own their words as long as the law allows. Probably longer. At the same time, every writer also…Continue Reading

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Author Interview: Anna Stewart talks of her Tremayne Family Romances

National and USA Today Bestselling author, Anna Stewart talks of procrastinating, the Tremayne Family Romances and writing in the kitchen– •When did you first realize you wanted to be a writer? In high school after reading my first romance (boy, back in the early 80’s). I’d always been a storyteller (as an only child, I had…Continue Reading

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REVIEW: Venus in Blue Jeans(Konigsburg Book 1) by Meg Benjamin

This is a fun, fast read about life in small town Texas. I discovered the book after reading a sample (which is what I do with all books before buying. It’s kind of like browsing in a bookstore). I very much like Ms. Benjamin’s style. She draws her characters with skill and makes them interesting, even…Continue Reading

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Valentine Gift Nightmares

Just been through Valentines Day and, let me tell you, it was dicey. My dear husband and I have always been gift-challenged. This is not from a lack of affection or because we don’t try. We do. We have expended so much energy on this (money, too, when there is spare money), but it comes down…Continue Reading

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